You may have thought I wasn’t coming back, since I hadn’t dropped by for such a long time. The good news is, I’m here to assist you once more. My apologies for my absence, for I wasn’t nearly as ready as I thought I was to get into some regular dialogue when I returned from my lengthy hiatus, after ill health in 2014.

Trusting I am now.

I am shocked it has been that long.

Oh well, it is what it is.

So what’s been happening over the past year or so?

The big news is, Andrew, my bisexual husband and I celebrated our 25th Wedding Anniversary early in December last year. Who would’ve ever thought that would be possible, especially once I found out he was keeping such a huge part of himself secret from me (and the rest of the world), twenty-three years ago? If you had asked me back then, I would’ve said there’s no way we would still be together, let alone more in love, twenty-three years on post disclosure.

Thank goodness miracles do exist.

I exist.

For what kind of woman could continue to love and be in love with a man whom has sex, or fantasises about having sex with men and her?

A woman who is sure of herself and her relationship with her beloved.

A woman who can forgive, trust, negotiate, learn, laugh, re-evaluate and stand in her truth, again and again.

A woman who feels the fear and does it anyway and knows the difference between fear and danger.

A woman who loves unconditionally and is no longer blinded by the restraints of wanna-be dictators.

A woman who does not conform nor follow the pack.

A woman who no longer compares herself to others.

A woman who seeks authenticity, connection, honesty, individuality, open communication – in speaking and listening, trust, intimacy, freedom and love.

A woman who does not live in a box, who’s beyond the norm, a step aside her comfort zone, feet firmly planted in the real world.

A woman who questions everything.

A woman who makes the rules up as she goes along, yet knows her boundaries.

A woman who is willing to give it a go.

A woman who gets knocked down and gets back up again.

A woman of strength, conviction, power, softness, subtleness, empowerment.

A woman open to possibilities, including the impossible – for I’m possible.

A woman who lives in the now.

A woman who trusts the process of life.

A woman who dances in her dark, the same way she dances in her light.

A woman who is so much more than mere words on paper.

A woman of worth.

A woman full of self-love and love for others.

A woman who didn’t know she could do it, until she did it!

This is the woman I’ve become, becoming, ever changing, ever evolving, ever new.

A self-made woman.


To the women reading this,

What kind of woman are you?

Do you embody any of these traits?


To the men reading this,

What kind of woman do you love?

Does the woman you love embody any of these traits?


Are there any other traits you recommend in this situation?


A woman who…

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