1. an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc.
2. a misunderstanding or misconception.
verb (used with object), mistook, mistaken, mistaking.
3. to regard or identify wrongly as something or someone else:
I mistook him for the mayor.
4. to understand, interpret, or evaluate wrongly; misunderstand; misinterpret.
verb (used without object), mistook, mistaken, mistaking.
5. to be in error.
6. and no mistake, for certain; surely:
He’s an honorable person, and no mistake.
I’m certainly one to declare I’ve made plenty a mistake over the course of my life thus far and readily put my hand up in admitting so.
That doesn’t scare me in the least.
I happily own my stuff, good or otherwise.
Hmm, maybe it’s a throw back from my ‘I must always tell the truth’ days.
Maybe it’s just how I roll!
I don’t have any desire to be something I’m not, infallible.
Nor do I, or have I ever claimed to be perfect. Unless of course there is perfection in imperfection. Then that’s me.
As I said in opening, I’ve made plenty a mistake over the years and I’m sure I’m not done making more yet either.
I don’t personally know anyone who hasn’t made mistakes.
We all make them at one point or another.
Ever made a mistake that is?
I’m sure you have?
There’s a lot to be said about making a mistake. It’s from this point where we learn most. We could look at it as, mi-stake (my stake) in time. For we tend to remember the not so good or bad experiences more than the good, as we do not wish to repeat those not so good or bad experiences again.
Mistakes are used to guide us, not define us.
Do you agree?
With any of the above?
The one thing I find most challenging about mistakes, in my experience, when a feeling of being mistaken presents, its not just that feeling I’m having to deal with. It’s the shame, guilt, embarrassment, to name but a few, that get entrapped along with the mistaken feeling.
Then down, down, down one can spiral from there.
It’s never just a mistake.
Hmm, I guess that’s because I go into the stories and stop dealing with the facts at hand.
If I dealt with the facts and the facts alone, my mistakes would purely feel like mistakes. Not the wash of other emotions with it, such as I mentioned above.
So when is a mistake not a mistake?
Is there such a thing?
A mistaken mistake?
Is it when we learn from it?
Is it when it puts us on a better path?
When we take responsibility for our mistakes?
Therefore making us a better person?
Is it not human to err?
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new” – Albert Einstein.
When did mistakes become such a wrong doing?
There even a bit of a taboo.
Are mistakes simply proof that we are attempting, actioning, moving towards our desired outcomes?
It’s when we’re not willing to admit to our mistakes that trouble starts. If we’re always in the right, where does that leave us? Others? Our authentic relationship to ourselves. Our authentic relationships to others?
I ask you.
Imagine a person in power or of influence not admitting to there mistakes. What kind of leader would they make?
Imagine you not admitting to your mistakes.
Me to mine?
We all make mistakes. It’s what we do with them that counts.
In exploring mistakes, here’s something that recently popped up in my Facebook feed which you may also find of interest, by Dr John Demartini.
Understand That There Are No Mistakes. Every decision you make is based on your highest values. Therefore, you can’t make a mistake. Whatever decision you make is the most efficient with the data that you have. However, you might think that you are making a mistake. Why? Because the moment you subordinate to somebody else and assume that you should be acting according to their highest values, the decisions you make based on your highest values will look like a mistake. There are no mistakes. There is only you judging your highest values according to the highest values of another person.
Interesting view point.
One in which I will do my best to reflect upon the next time I make a (perceived) mistake.
I’ve said it before and no doubt I’ll say it again.
Mistake me not.
We think we know so much in this life.
We are infantile in our learnings.
Do you value your mistakes?
Own up to them?
Use them as a guide?
Or do you allow your mistakes to define you?