Hello beautiful people,

For the past few months now I’ve been sharing with you snippets, insights and the goings on (in that sometimes crowded head of mine) of my life and what it’s like being married to and in love with a bisexual man.

Not that if truth be told I’m really into labels, although for the purpose of keeping things simple here I do refer to Andrew as being bisexual.  Just for the record, I see Andrew’s bisexuality as one way in which he expresses his sexual self and in no way defining of who he is.

Going public with my relationship with Andrew hasn’t always been easy for me to do, as you would have already read, however the desire to make a difference, I mean really make a difference in the life of a fellow sister (or brother for that matter) far outweighs any reasons that I can think of for not doing this.

I know I am not the only woman on the planet to discover her husband was cheating on her and with a man (or men!).  Nor, dare I say it, will I be the last.  I may just be one of a handful of women willing to stand up and talk about it so openly and honestly (using my real name I might add!) and truly bring it out from the shadows and into the light where it belongs.  And from my own investigating over the years, I’m guessing too that I may be one of only a handful of women who has managed to stay married and continue to have an intimate, loving, happy and fulfilling relationship with my husband, eighteen (almost!) years post disclosure.  Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there were lots of relationships like mine, rather than them ending in divorce?  As far as I am concerned the way I choose to live my life with my husband is as natural and normal as anyone else’s.

So then, is there a point to this post?

Absolutely there is.  I’m very aware that over the past few months it has all been about me, me, me!  What I think you’d like to read about. What I’d like to share with you, me, me, me. For me to make a difference in your life, I’d like to know what it is you’d like to read about.  What you’d like to know about.  I know you’re out there.  I know you are reading my posts.  Why are you reading them?  What is it you would like me to share with you?  My life is an open book, hah, that’s funny as very soon it will be, literally!  My true self knows this is a part of who I am, why I’m here and what it is I am meant to be doing.

Therefore if you have a burning question and are too shy to write it in the comment section, send me an email.  Or if there is something you thought I’d discuss that I haven’t yet, please feel free to ask me. Start firing away people.

I’d also love it if you happen to be one of those very few women living and loving her man unconditionally like myself, since learning of his secret life, whether you’d be interested in sharing some of your own insights here too.

Sure this blog is about me – although it’s really for you.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Love & hugs,

Lyndal

‘practice what you passion’®

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  • Hi Lyndal, I enjoy reading your blogs even if I only check every couple of weeks. Like you I am trying my best to live with the new truth, I love my husband of 17years but only knowing the truth for a couple of months now it is certainly hard going. There are good days and bad days, but the good days happen more than the bad days now. This journey is certainly challenging my idea of what a marriage is. Having lived a double life for about 5 years now he is getting strange reactions from his gay friends who are all purely gay and cannot understand him staying in a marriage with a female. Sometimes we feel stuck in the middle. We are now trying to build structure around our relationship to fit everything in, his time, our time, family time and my time. Staying together when nothing else is wrong seems the only way, I can’t imagine him moving out, I am coping so much better with dealing with the betrayal than with if he moved away which is something that I never thought I would feel, and I worry about how the kids will cope, it is so much better for all if we stay together. Everytime I weigh up the for and against to stay together, everything bar one thing is on the for side. Everytime I have doubts or concerns I just remember what I would be giving up. Keep up the good work, would love to read your book when it comes out.

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    • Hi Sharon,
      Thank you for sharing a bit about your story and your thoughts here at Sexual Biversity. I really appreciate your heartfelt honesty.
      I acknowledge you for choosing to stay in an intimate relationship with your husband and negotiating what is and isn’t acceptable within your own marriage. More power to you!
      It’s great to hear you are enjoying reading my blogs and are looking forward to reading my book – that is, when it is finally finished! I will definitely keep you posted as to its release. So close, so close!
      Love & hugs,
      Lyndal
      ‘practice what you passion’®

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