Hello beautiful people,
I was listening to Matt and Jo from Fox FM Melbourne talking about how they are hosting an event for singles aptly named a ‘No Surprise Party’ and to win a ticket to this party you had to fess up to your worst habit or guiltiest secret that you wouldn’t dream of ever sharing on a first date. What’s even better is if you won a ticket to the ‘No Surprise Party’ you got to wear this said worst habit or guiltiest secret on you at the party for all to see and read!
Some of the secrets that I can recall hearing (my apologies if I have them incorrect, although you’ll get the gist of it) are of one lady who confessed to being born the opposite sex to which she is now. Another young man declaring that he had herpes and had resolved himself to staying single unless he met someone else who also had herpes which was definitely not something he would talk about on a first date. Shortly after a lady who had been listening then rang in saying she also had herpes and would like to meet him. Then there was a woman revealing she had about 600 pairs of stilettos, another that the father of her children was in jail, a bloke telling all that he was thirty-one and still living at home with his parents and on and on it went.
I was so excited when I first heard this was happening, even if it was only a promo for the new comedy flick Date Night. However, imagine if everyone in the world had the courage to speak so openly and freely to one and other, especially on a first date. Good honest healthy communication, what an awesome concept, to tell it exactly as it is. That’s one of the major reasons why I’m doing what I’m doing, to create awareness around conversations that are best had at the very beginning of a relationship not years down track.
I know Andrew would have loved the courage to have had ‘that’ conversation with me when our relationship was just beginning had he not been so afraid of losing me. Then there were thoughts of how harshly I would judge him and the possibility of disclosing his secret to all who knew him that would ultimately result in his whole world crashing down around him that he continued to keep those lips of his sealed for years, all because his sexual expression was different to the ‘norm’. I believe this is why Andrew supports me doing this today, so that he can assist others in finding the courage to speak openly and honestly at the beginning of a relationship where agreements can be made based on truth not lies.
I’m looking forward to seeing if this ‘No Surprise Party’ has a flow on effect and whether or not it will give individuals permission to be themselves. Next time you’re about to embark on a relationship with someone I wonder if you will have the courage to speak from your truth? Interesting concept, very interesting concept indeed, I simply love it.
Love & hugs,
‘practice what you passion’®